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Listening to people crying while telling their life problems and stories on Prof Muhaya's session on Ikim.fm, i couldn't help but feeling that our Malaysian people are in a serious need of trained therapists (psychologists).
But nowadays therapists can't really survive in our country, mostly because of the social stigma. People don't want to be labeled as 'insane', or 'crazy', or 'mentally disturbed', just because of several visits to their therapist's office.
This taboo leads to severe depression among our people who cannot channel their problems to the right directions. Instead, they keep their problems to themselves or open up to someone who can't offer much solution. Not a good one, at least.
As muslims, of course the first one to turn to in the time of need is to Allah. That's what makes us different from the Europeans or Americans who mostly don't have much beliefs in diety. But professional help is also crucial. Trained therapists are experts in the sciense of psychology, which i think, is the one you should see to seek advice.
I however believe that our religious leaders (ustazs) can and should play some role in helping the matter at hand. Generally speaking, people trust their Ustazs and regard them as people who can offer spiritual advice when it comes to worldly problems, such as problems in marriage, or between siblings and friends, or even in work place.
But in order for this to be a valid alternative (if not to replace it all at once) to seeing a therapist, our Ustazs should also prepare themselves with some knowledge of human psychology, and must abide fully to the discipline, rules and guard lines of a real therapist, such as the doctor-patient confidentiality etc.
Thus, as those who interact with other people for a living, med students and religious students alike, we should really prepare ourselves with people skills. Learn how to talk to them. Know what interests them and what is off limits. Try engaging in their daily activities and discover what their common problems are.
What is the use of getting full marks in exams if we don't know the first thing about a good public relations?
What is the use of getting full marks in exams if we don't know the first thing about a good public relations?
Japanese muslim woman, still wearing her kimono..
Islam did not come to destroy any customs or traditions, but to purify it. As long as they do not contradict with Islamic laws or value, they should not be abolished or prohibited.
Baju kurung or baju melayu is just as Islamic as jubah. Remember, Islam did not come to 'Arabize' people..
The ability to tell good from bad is a pretty basic skill for a human being, actually.
The term 'mumayyiz' is often referred to a toddler who is able to differentiate between good and bad, right and wrong.
Grown ups are supposed to be able to do more than that.
Sufyan bin ‘Uyainah is right when he said, "The intelligent person is not one who merely knows what is good and what is bad. The intelligent person is one who, when he sees what is good, follows it, and when he sees evil, shuns it.”
Saturate yourself with good deeds, so that it wont leave any room for the bad ones. Remember that whoever tasted the sweetness of iman will always recognize the bitterness of sins.
Sometimes as we grow older, we realize that not everything has to be debatable.
When we were young and eager to talk, we wanted to debate about everything. We thought we knew everything, and wanted the whole world to know that we did. Bad words were exchanged and feelings were hurt.
What we didn't realize is that wisdom actually makes somebody more calm, humble, unemotional and rational.
A wise person will know that winning hearts is more important than winning arguments.
A smart person will know that even though he/she is a good debater, but he/she is a much better son/daughter/husband/wife/friend.
A smart person will know that even though he/she is a good debater, but he/she is a much better son/daughter/husband/wife/friend.
There will be a time when we will look back at our previous arguments and say, "Oh my, why did i say that? Couldn't i just let it go?"
So, before we talk, think. Before we judge, understand. Before we hurt someone, feel.
There's no ctrl+z in life. Once you say something, it'll be out there forever. So, speak wisely :)
Perhatikan keajaiban buah-buahan. Kesemuanya disiram dengan air hujan yang sama, tetapi mengeluarkan rasa berbeza-beza. Ada yang manis, ada yang masam, ada yang pahit.
Sebab itu tidak pelik melihat perbezaan di kalangan manusia. Kadangkala mereka menuntut di universiti yang sama, bergerak dalam jemaah yang sama, ditarbiyah dalam usrah yang sama, bernaung di bawah kalimah tauhid yang sama, tetapi hasil tindakan dan aliran pemikiran boleh jadi berbeza-beza.
Adakah wajar disalahkan wujudnya perbezaan tersebut? Ataukah lebih bijak untuk mengurus serta meraikan kesemuanya dengan berlapang dada dan usaha menuju sinergi?
Jika setiap kepingan jigsaw puzzle itu sama sahaja bentuknya, tidak dinamakan jigsaw puzzle lah begitu. Namun seperti juga manusia, setiap satu bersifat unik. Tetapi mempunyai kebolehan bergabung sesama sendiri sehinggalah menghasilkan satu imej yang jelas dan indah.
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Sometimes we struggle through a tasteless coffee till the last sip.. But then we find sugar lying at the bottom of the cup. That's life :)
Sometimes we just have to endure the bitter part of life to finally get to the sweet part. We'll never know what Allah has planned for us. Just be grateful with what you have and be optimistic ;)
Are you a thermometer or a thermostat?
A thermometer can only measure the 'temperature' of a society, without being able to change their condition. People like this usually love to criticize and judge, but do nothing to make a difference.
But a thermostat, on the other hand, is not only able to analyze the atmosphere, but can also make some changes to it when necessary. People like this realize the importance of doing something in order to make an impact.
So, which one are you? :)
Sometimes what seems like a disunity might actually be a unity in disguise.
Remember when Prophet Jacob p.b.u.h instructed his sons to enter Egypt from different doors (Surah Yusuf: 67). That did not at all result in disunity among them, but rather a strategy, in the sense that if one way turned out to be unsuccessful, the others would have another alternative to get their tasks completed.
It doesn't really matter which way we use then, as long as it leads to the same destination. Each way has its own advantages and disadvantages.
Some people pick a country road for its scenery. Others pick highways because they're faster. But nobody could ever say that their way is better than the other.
Lets just enjoy our road trips and we'll see each other at the destination soon ;)
Surah al-Kahfi menggariskan ciri-ciri kepimpinan yang perlu ada di kalangan pemimpin umat Islam.
Salah satunya ialah identiti "ghurabak" yang ditunjukkan oleh Ashabul Kahfi; para pemuda yang berani & bersemangat kental melawan arus pemikiran yang rosak, tanpa terikut-ikut ideologi majoriti ketika itu, walau mereka tahu implikasi buruknya.
Pemimpin yang hebat juga bukan sahaja yang hanya tinggi ilmu agamanya, warak sifatnya, atau petah kata ucapannya, tetapi juga yang menguasai ilmu moden lain yang diperlukan mengikut kesesuaian zaman.
Dalam kes Zulqarnain, selain penguasaan teknik komunikasi dan pentadbiran, ditonjolkan juga kemahirannya dalam bidang kejuruteraan & senibina apabila beliau mampu membina tembok pemisah dari Yakjuj dan Makjuj daripada campuran besi dan tembaga, yang ketika itu sudah dikira sangat kukuh dan moden.
Justeru jika kepimpinan hari ini berhajat kepada penguasaan bahasa Inggeris, ilmu ekonomi, sains sosial, pengurusan, pentadbiran mahupun pertahanan, maka pemimpin kita perlulah mempersiapkan diri dengan elemen-elemen tersebut untuk memimpin dengan lebih efisyen.
Moga kita diberi peluang untuk berada di bawah pimpinan Islam yang hebat menurut acuan al-Quran suatu hari nanti. Insya Allah :)
Unlike humans, Allah will never place a burden on someone greater than he can bear.
Thus, whenever we face a challenge, put faith in ourselves that we are capable of overcoming it. We just have to be patient, try harder and know where to look for solution.
A locksmith will never create a lock without its key. Similarly, for every difficulty that we have, Allah has already created a solution that we will find eventually.
Pray not for a lighter burden, but rather for a stronger shoulder.
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