Jun 2, 2009

Why am I single?

Back in 2005 when i was in Matriculation Center of IIUM, i had this very close friend.. We had a lot of things in common.. We've been good friends for like, 7 years or so.. One day i came to his room to talk to him about something.. But he was lying on his bed talking on the phone with someone when i arrived..

Not knowing who was on the line and what were they talking about, i just sat on his bed next to him waiting for him to finish... But out of the sudden, he kicked me out of his bed, both figuratively and literally! With his legs~ At that moment, i just realized that he was actually talking to his girlfriend on the phone..

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It happened to me again when i was here in Cairo.. Only this time, another good friend of mine wasn't on the phone.. He was texting to a person.. Not knowing to whom he was texting, i just laid on the bed next to him, when he said that he was texting to his gf..

"Laa,takpe laa..Bukannye aku nak tengok pun mesej ko tu.." i replied.

But the next thing i know, he kicked me out of his bed too! Also with his legs until i fell off the bed..

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"Two different persons with the same story? Come onn.. That's too great for a coincidence.. You've gotta make these stories up, didn't u?" But believe me, those really happened.

Was then that i realized the power of being in a relationship.. It brings this immense power, powerful enough to change someone into a person you don't know, even your bestest friend. I mean, a simple 'excuse me' would be much nicer than kicking me out of bed, don't u think?

Some people [note the word 'some', ok.. I'm not generalizing.. I don't wanna be labeled as.. err, generalizer dumbfuk?], when being in a relationship, they tend to be soo secretive and jerky at times... They somehow feel so insecure that they have to be overprotective to his gf.. They avoid becoming close to people, just to make sure that their relationship stays 'as secrete as possible'...

I've met many people in my life that have changed to a whole lot different person, just because of being in a relationship.. The person who used to be soo funny and happy-go-lucky, now being moody and paranoid.. Seriously, sometimes i feel like they feel like i wanna steal his girlfriend or something~ Believe it or not, i've got better things to do!

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Seeing lots of my friends undergo this weird and annoying phase filled with rudeness and insensitiveness, i've lost interest in being in relationships.. I couldn't bear the thought that my friends would see me as what i saw in my other friends that i mentioned before.. I want to stay nice and polite as long as possible [no offense]... I'm afraid that i'm not gonna be able to do that once i'm in a relationship.. Being in a relationship does change you, if you don't know how to manage yourself..

Well, of course that's not the only reason why i'm (still) single until now.. The obvious reason bcoz, well... i'm not that 'hot' to be having someone attracted to me =p Plus, my mom wouldn't let me get married until i have something to do for a living.. So i think, why find one if u can't marry her except for 5-6 years later?

So i'm just gonna have to wait until, u know.. All good gals are already taken =p But girls out there, don't try this at home.. Men are different.. You know the old saying, "Good men are either taken or gay." So grab yours while u still can! (In ways that are approved by syariah, of course..)


Woman waiting for the perfect man..

23 comments:

Ezainy said...

wah effy..mantap entry ko nih. aku setuju benar dengan ko!(^_~)

p/s: perh.. memang tak patut. senang-senang je kan orang tu sepak ko. hehe

HaNiFah said...

"All good gals are already taken =p" - Not all good gals already taken.. cth terdekat effy, kemabar (eziny,ezairy, ust firdaus hat dsb) still single and available... so, girls out there jgn risau..

nakula sadewa said...

jgn sedih..

nakula sadewa said...

apa yg abg nipah merepek?promote ust firdaus hat pulak..tau la abg nipah dah tunang..org dah berpunya/betunang dok diam2..ini tempat keluh-kesah org yg gersang

Effy Saiful said...

oit2,i'm not 'gersang' ok =p haha

nipah, gals = girls laa..

kembar ngan ust firdaus tu bknnye gals..diorg guys~

HafizAdam said...

pergh best entry nih.
perkara baik heboh2kan..
bukan disecret2kan..
hehe

p/s: abgEffy bukan HOT ke? haha

firuz akhtar said...

an interesting entry effy! yeah, people tend to do stupid things when they are in a relationship. how dare they kicked u out!mmmm...did u really mean it when u said that good men r taken or GAY? hahahha. so funny!

manar said...
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manar said...

So grab yours while u still can! hehe its kinda funny d way u put it..of course one has to read the sentence next to it =)
Keep writing. hopefully there's something we all can learn from it.

c's said...

ppl change when they step to dat stage.. n my personal view, their [esp girls] 'weirdness' n 'freakness' do depend on to whom they r attached..

n sum more fact.. ppl simply get cried even becoz of small matter [oversensitive?].. adeh, bahagia pun belum lama.. sedih merana pula jadinya..

p/s my fwen will 'kick' me out too if they saw dis comment.. *no offence =P*

muhammad nazrul syazwan bin kamarul ariffin said...

aku ke aa..? [cube ingat2 balek]

tp kalo aku kompem akan sepak sape2 jatuh katil kalo aku dah sound suruh blah tapi tanak blah jugak..

Effy Saiful said...

Kak Firuz: actually i didn't say that..it's an old saying..i dunno whether it's true or not..hehe

Manar: Thank u~

Cik Radin: What dyu mean 'depends on to whom they r attached'? didn't quite get it..

Wrq: See?! My observation is precise.. The patterns are just the same.. Applies to everyone~ That makes me wanna stay single even more.. I wanna stay polite & not rude as long as possible.. no offense~

btw, it wasn't u =)

lrh said...

Salam..

kasihan. saya tidak kasihan pd yang kena sepak, ttp pada yg menyepak. hanya kerana gf saja mampu beraksi sebegitu, melayan kawan yg malah lebih lama mengenali diri kita.

kalaulah manusia mengekspreskan kasih sayangnya pd Pencipta sebegitu rupa, sanggup menolak segala taghut, sanggup berbuat apa saja untuk Allah, kan best?

misa'e said...

wow!

baek cakap mcm ni..

" saya prefer menjadi single kerana ingin menjaga diri dan jua hati daripada melakukan perkara2 yg dilaknat oleh Allah "

seperti yg disebutkn dlm Quran " laa taqrabuzzinaa
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>> end of story <<

aidah said...

entry kali ni buat tergelak sndri =) ..terlepas tensen exam ,hehe..kesian hang kena kick free2 je, mb diorang xberniat kot effy..neway 50% stju dgn entry hang, but i think not all of them mcm tu kan, some of them still da same..+ rasa2nya kan, mak hang dah jumpa calon utk hang kot..hehe =) peace..

Effy Saiful said...

Irh: Tu la kan..setuju

Cik rem: Sbb sy tak rasa cmtu..huhu. mmg sbb2 sy still single sama sperti yg sy tulis tu~

Aidah: haha..kalau ada calon pn, snggup ke dia nk tggu smpai 5 thn lg? =p mmg la bkn semua jd cmtu.. i emphasized the word 'some'..

Ekceli kan..diorg bkn la sepak kuat2..i was just exaggerating..to make me look more innocent. hehe. diorg tolak kuat2 pakai kaki.. sampai jatuh katil.. tu je =p but still~

muhammad nazrul syazwan bin kamarul ariffin said...

bak kata replies2 di atas,bercouple itu salah ye,rakan2. betol kate dik ramu itu. maka sile jgn bercouple.

misa'e said...

sorry abg naz..

Amermeftah said...

Kawan baik saya pun bercinta juga. Tapi tak ada sampai sepak orang jatuh katil. Kalau mau baca smsnya, sila saja. Sebab itu saya pun tak gatal-gatal lagi nak tgk smsnya. Dia tak rahsiakan apa-apa. Pun bukan dia menunjuk-nunjuk heboh satu dunia.

Pada dia (dan saya juga) orang yang merahsiakan hal cinta masih mentaliti tadika. Takut kawan-kawan ejek. Padahal dah tua bangka. Semua pun menuju ke situ juga.

Satu saja yang saya setuju rahsia, pertunangan.

Kawan baik saya yang bercinta itu, masih kelakar, masih happy-go-lucky, emosinya tidak moody, fikiran positif tidak paranoia.

Pada saya, orang yang berubah wajah dan watak kerana cinta (atau wanita) sebenarnya tidak profesional dalam bercinta.

Effy Saiful said...

I know, right? Thank u~

Normal people should react like that, not otherwise..

c's said...

'weirdness' n 'freakness' do depend on to whom they r attached' kira sudden changes melihat kepada siapa mrk terikat [?]

biasa bila dgn yang matang, tindak yang sorg lagi pun makin matang..

n kadang2 [xmo generalize gak] kalau ada yang perhubungan emo macam kanak-kanak n selalu gaduh tendency mrk emo dgn org lain pun tinggi juga..

opss..

=P

Jackster® said...

adeih rajin btol abg effy menulis entry2 kontroversi hehe

ade sedikit unsur mengena sebatangklobot di situ nampaknye =D (generalized du...)

um, malas nk komen pasal post ni sbnrnye tp nk jugak tinggal komen haha that's all i guess

teruskan menulis =)

Effy Saiful said...

Jackster, enta ingat post sebatangklobot tu ditujukan pd sape sbnrnye? =p